Nearly 90 million singles in America are continually befuddled by the fact that they can't seem to find someone to share in their lives. They try speed dating, Internet services and the classifieds, yet nothing seems to pan out. Some assume it's because of their looks or age, or because “all the good ones are taken.” However, none of this is the real source of the loneliness that some people feel.

   What is the real reason people can't seem to connect? Believe it or not, the answer is in modern science. It's all about energy – your energy! Quantum physics shows that everything and everybody projects real energetic frequencies that move out into the universe. Each one of us is like a little radio station, broadcasting subtle but very real signals about ourselves. The people and situations that have the same energy will "tune" into us and be drawn into our lives – for better or for worse.

   You are always in the process of transmitting and receiving energy. There is never a moment when you're not creating your destiny by virtue of the projection of your own personal resonance. But this dynamic is actually very liberating because it gives you the power to change the consequences of your life by consciously changing the frequency you send out.

   So, no matter what your love life has been like in the past, the relationship you desire is achievable in the future if you change your energy now. For example, if you are constantly critical of yourself, that energy will attract someone who is more than willing to criticize you, too – not really what you're looking for in a partner. And if you keep attracting people who don't prioritize you, they are actually drawn to you because you don't prioritize yourself.

   The first step is to look within. Your beliefs and your emotions predominantly produce your energy. What kind of emotional energy consumes most of your time? Are you happy and optimistic? Or, are you fearful and depressed? It's time to take responsibility for what you create in your thoughts and your feelings because your future will bring more of the same to you. No matter what you've been taught to believe about yourself and the world, you can choose a different set of beliefs. In fact, you may have to do it if you really want to change the destiny of your relationships.

   The single most important factor in the energy you broadcast can be found in your self-talk. There's no room for self-judgment in the mind of someone who is looking for a happy relationship and a successful life. The Laws of Attraction are like the law of gravity. You cannot jump out of a second floor window without getting hurt and you can't send out waves of negative energy without attracting less than positive results. The universe is abundant. After all, with 90 million singles on the planet, you should be able to find someone to love and support you – but only if you are willing to love and support yourself first.

   So, investigate your beliefs and thought patterns thoroughly. Do you tend to worry about all sorts of things? If you do, you will not only attract fearful people into your life, but also more things to fear. If, on the other hand, you live your life with purpose and appreciation, you will attract wonderful people and even more to appreciate. The signals you send to yourself will determine what you receive from the universe. This is the energetic reality.

   You must be aware of one important truth: To attract real value into your life, you must look into the mirror and see value there. No matter what you may see on the surface, you are a valuable and valid person, an eternal soul who deserves the best by virtue of your divine heritage. In fact, this is the highest, most attractive frequency you can project to the world – an appreciation of yourself and your life, knowledge of your worth and optimism about your future. Always value, honor and respect yourself. Create a life full of you right now and your own happy energy will attract a truly happy relationship. You deserve a quality love life, and the Laws of Attraction guarantee it when you finally choose to see the quality within yourself.

Sandra Anne Taylor has been a counselor in private practice for 23 years. She lectures throughout the world on the energy dynamics of personal, financial and relationship success. Her recently released audio seminar, Act To Attract, teaches how to change your energy and attract the life and love you desire. Go to www.starbringerassociates.com or call (440) 871-5448 to learn more and to order.

Sandra Anne Taylor is serving as Honorary Chair of the Annual Benefit hosted by Mind∙Body∙Spirit Connected on October 29th, 2005 at the Cleveland Athletic Club. Join Sandra at MBSC's “Wedding” Masquerade Ball & Silent Auction. It will be a cross between Tony and Tina's Wedding, My Big Fat Greek Wedding and The Rocky Horror Picture Show. For more information, visit www.MBSConline.org, or call MBSC at (216) 321-9181.

Sandra Anne Taylor will offer a workshop, “Act To Attract: The Power of Manifestation in Your Daily Life” at Unity Church of Medina, One-In-Spirit, on Sunday, November 6th from 1-4 p.m. Whether your deepest desire is money, success, health or romance, it can be manifested through the energetic workings of the quantum world. By making healthy energy choices, you can align yourself with the infinite abundance of the Universe and change your destiny forever. $35 per person. Register online at www.starbringerassociates.com or call (440) 871-5448. Unity Church of Medina is located at Williams on the Lake, 787 Lafayette Road (State Rte. 42) in Medina.